100% Transparency because well, that's how I roll!
Lately I have been going through a pretty big uplevel. It has been confusing. Sometimes uncomfortable. At times earth shattering. And has pushed me to some mental limits.
Growth is not always peaceful.
It is not always comfortable.
It is not always wanted.
But....in Universal Law,
it is INEVITABLE.
And to think we can escape it is just fooling ourselves.
Over the last 5 years I have been working hard on my judgment. Mostly for myself. I have a very loud inner critic.
I can be my own worst enemy.
What I've learned in these last 5 years is to not judge myself.
To honor my journey.
To not focus on a destination because the NOW is important.
To be with what is and sit with it.
To not name it good or bad.
This is what my Vipassana practice has helped me to grasp and grapple with.
I will always be imperfectly, perfect and I am okay with that.
I may be an inspiration to others, because that is my choice.
It is a part of my Soul's purpose.
I show up even when I don't want to.
Even when I am working things out.
Because I find meaning in showing up.
I spent so much of my early life hiding from everything.
To be seen was scary.
So every day I push myself to show up in the world to shine the light on me and others.
I wanted to talk about what I feel is the elephant in the room.
The thing that has been coming up for me and has been something a little vulnerable.
The fact that I have been through these rapid changes in my business.
That although my purpose has not changed, the way I deliver on it has...
MANY, MANY times.
But what my practice and connection with my intuition and the Divine gift me is that it is okay.
I am finding my way.
And at times finding your way is messy.
But not all who wander are lost.
That all of this is for something greater than I can imagine.
That it is pointing me toward parts of myself that deserve light.
That there is no time or space for judgment.
I am and you are too, God's greatest creation.
In my morning meditation I had a great sense of peace come over me about all of this.
That if I a meant to help shift the paradigm, that my words and message will find their way to the people who need them most.
I share this....
Because I truly believe that it can help someone else.
Because I know I am not the only one.
Because I have to live and speak MY truth.
I love you, keep going,
Recently an old coach of mine contacted me and asked if I wanted to participate in one of their programs. I wanted to say YES with all my heart, because I absolutely adore this coach and the value that I gleaned from the programs I had taken in the past.
Why, you might ask?
Because I didn’t want to be tempted to peek over their shoulder and look at their math test!
I really wanted to be a part of the program but I was in creation mode and I didn’t want to let anything filter in. I didn’t want to inadvertently “borrow” any content.
Don’t take that as me saying….look what a great person I am….No. Don’t. Because in the past I have been so tempted by others stuff. I have occasionally peeked at the math test and even the answer key.
I am a recovering shiny objects girl and I am here to share that it’s not a good look for anyone.
That is a HUGE disservice to YOU and your clients.
If you think you’re doing it and someone else won’t do it to you, think again….
Universal law of cause and effect brings it right to you!
It did to me too.
It’s important to find the folks that inspire YOU.
It’s important to keep doing your OWN inner work
Keep thinking and creating from YOUR gifts and talents.
You have those things that you’re great at!!!
Your own superpowers!
Don’t undercut yourself.
Don’t feel you need to jump on everything that is working for others.
Likely it won’t work the same for you anyways.
The energy behind it is just not going to be there.
It’ll throw you out of alignment.
And please, please, please remember that people with online business are people JUST LIKE YOU!
They are working hard to create.
They are putting in endless hours.
They are putting in the time and tears.
Take some time to meditate.
Take time off in your business.
Create partnerships with others rather than competitions.
Because together we rise.
And if you sit still long enough, I promise you will find the answers to the test
They already are within you!
Spiritual Entrepreneurs….Time to shift the paradigm!
I’ve seen way too many struggling Spiritual Entrepreneurs to NOT say anything anymore. So this one is for you!
When I first started my business, I brought my job mentality with me.
As a teacher you are required to give a lot of yourself to your job. And I’ll add for not a lot of money.
So it was no surprise I had major money and abundance blocks from my past career!
I would answer text messages and FB messages from people at all hours and I was constantly GIVING.
No different from teaching.
I gave so much my slice of pie was so thin.
I was on the road to burn out!
And my family was not happy with me!
So whose problem was it really?
The people contacting me or mine?
You better fucking believe it was MY problem. Not theirs.
I had to take responsibility.
I had to shift the paradigm.
I had to set the parameters.
I had to serve and heal SELF so I could BETTER help others.
For every message I answered, it was time away from my family.
It was time away from my clients.
It was time away from my business.
And time away from ME.
And if people got angry that I was no longer giving, that was not my problem.
And you can best believe if they get angry because they are no longer receiving your value at the drop of a hat for free, they are NOT your dream clients!
Look, there are some folks out here that will tell you as a spiritual entrepreneur your job is to serve others and be of service. And though that is TRUE, and a part of receiving wealth, you are not meant to give all of yourself in service. You are not meant to burn yourself out. That is not what it means.
YOU ARE HUMAN!
As spiritual entrepreneurs we are NOT gurus.
We don’t have ALL the answers.
We are living the same human experience as everyone else even if we have expertise. We are not immune. No one is!
So are you creating a job mentality in your business?
Are you building your business sustainably?
Are you balancing your energies?
Are you satisfied with the way things are going in your business?
Where can you take responsibility for what you have created?
I am feeling a strong NEED to advocate for my Spiritual Business Tribe!
Today's PSA goes out to those who LOVE healing and readings...
I get it. I LOVE them too.
Here's the thing.
Healers, readers, intuitives, etc. all have VALUE to share with you.
Their shared value is a skill that they've spent time cultivating.
Their shared value is an energy exchange.
Their shared value if a GIFT to you.
Their shared value is a WORTHY service.
I get that you may not have the cash to exchange (though some of that may be money story if you ask me personally, but I won't hop on the horse right now) in the service so you wait until their free readings. Cool. No problem.
The reader shows up, they want to give, they give, you receive. All good. Job done.
Here is the issue and I know it well because I have seen it first-hand and have many of my clients share this with me.
The readings end and someone messages you. Not just to say thank you but to ask you for more information about your reading. Essentially wanting MORE than what you were prepared to give.
Or....they've even PAID for a session and email or message you over and over again with no intention of booking another session.
I am here to say PLEASE STOP DOING THAT.
STOP asking the healers and readers for readings when they clearly aren't in the space for it.
HONOR that this is their PROFESSION and it is WORTHY of monetary exchange.
It is not okay to PM someone with gifts to be your PERSONAL ORACLE.
And PLEASE, if you RECEIVE VALUE, express gratitude and you can exchange in others ways.
Tell your friends about the person.
Share their page.
Give them a Like
Write a Review for them
Don't be a fly by client if you receive great value.
Spiritual business owners are NOT disposable.
And maybe I'm biased, but I think the world needs us more now than ever!
We're here to help YOU.
So let's help EACH OTHER!
I have seen a lot of doors close and people withhold their gifts because of this stuff.
I feel very strongly as an advocate and Solutionary for other healers and spiritual business owners.
I see how much time and care they put into what they do.
How much LOVE they show up with FOR YOU.
PLEASE HONOR THAT TOO
Nothing BUT LOVE,
Do you really know how to be coached?
I thought I did though!
I mean, I am a COACH!
I’ve been coached before and I’ve coached hundreds of people.
I have always prided myself on being a good student.
But this last time was different than any other and I set myself to be stretched like I had never been before.
I recently invested $30,000 USD in a program that is helping me build my business.
I freaked too.
But I'll get to that.
A friend of mine saw an ad on FB and said, let’s go to this event. We can network.
My response – "I’m all in!" It was in my old neighborhood and I was feeling quite nostalgic.
I told her. “I’m not buying ANYTHING!”
Then we signed up and paid for the three day event!
I said at the three day event.
I am NOT signing up for the program!
The blasted words came rolling out of my mouth: “It’s too much money! I can’t afford that!”
Low and behold……
Three days later,
I fucking signed up!
I didn’t feel pushed or pressured.
But for that ONE moment when I made the decision, I saw all of my SUCCESS as POSSIBLE.
So, I INVESTED in myself like I never had before.
On my way home that night, I sat on the bus and thought, ‘I am changing my life, this is so exciting!’
I felt an endless amount of HOPE.
And, little did I know….I was pretty fucking uncoachable!
Well, unstretchable really.
You could compare me to a runner’s hamstrings – completely inflexible.
I showed up to my first coaching call and I was fucking resistant.
I was fucking stubborn.
I was NOT open.
I did not accept that my coach saw greatness in me.
I floundered around. Jumping from idea to idea and following some of the advice despite that it didn’t feel like me, but I didn’t fucking say anything. I just went along with it.
Then, I fucking QUIT after our second call.
I told him I QUIT!
And I felt like I went NUTS.
I felt like I could hyperventilate.
I felt like I made a HUGE mistake.
Did I just buy Hope?
Was that all I was going to get out of this?
Because that is gone.
And a few days later...
There I was with a positive pregnancy test in the middle of what felt like the biggest mess of my life!
I sent out the Bat Signal.
I booked strategy calls with others coaches.
I was looking for a savior.
I was looking for some place to hide and lick my wounds.
My very deep, oh my god, I just INVESTED, not spent! $30,000 ON ME! And MY business!
Who the fuck did I think I was?!
Then, magic happened.
I fucking called myself out.
And so did my coach.
I saw my sabotage patterns right in front of my face.
I saw how small I was being.
I saw how EVERYTHING I thought was TRUE was an ILLUSION!
I saw that I didn’t need a savior.
I needed to save myself.
I called my coach and apologized.
I told him from my heart what I needed, he listened.
I was going through the ring of fire that I’ve taken so many clients through.
But I’d NEVER been on the other side of it.
I fooled myself into believing I thought I had.
And, well, not being through it is not entirely true.
I have been through silent retreats, intensive workshops, masterminds, coaching, and other major growth experiences….
BUT never has anyone truly WITNESSED before or worked with me in the way that was fucking up-leveling my WHOLE SELF
Not like that!
Those other experiences I could have that ring of fire anonymously.
I could mute it at any time.
I could go hide in my dorm or cry in the bathroom, have a what the fuck moment outside, or sit in my car and text my husband.
I was one of many.
Going through that ring of fire with someone staring at you in the eyes, 1:1 is just so much WOW!
And now I know what some of my clients have been through and how I can better support ALL of them through that.
This whole experience was humbling.
It brought me closer to home.
But I am not going to lie. Through this journey I cursed myself, my coach, and my Guides.
How could my Guides have led me here after all?
You see, I was caught in judging and scarcity mind.
I was weighing things as good and bad when they were neither.
They were a part of the story.
They were essential to my growth.
They were all leading me right to where I Divinely needed to be.
The growth we go through is NOT always pleasant.
Up-leveling is NOT always this amazing journey that you just ride your magical unicorn through unscathed.
If you’ve ever given birth you know that transition and the ring of fire is beautiful in your spirit but fucking painful in your body!
But I promise that knowing SELF and seeing YOU is truly worth all of it.
I have begun the journey to reap the benefits of my investment.
I assumed it would all be financial.
But my gains started the day I invested so much in myself.
I AM NO LONGER THE PERSON I WAS BEFORE.
I am fully in the flow in life and my business.
One of my favorite things to do is walk along the beach. I love the sea so much. Water brings me great solace.
Where I live there is a pier. I often make a goal to walk to the pier. It’s usually the point where I turn around. Some days I make the choice to walk on the pier so I can see the ocean below. Being suspended above really helps me feel connected to that water energy. It’s a long pier and sometimes I only walk halfway.
This morning I decided to walk to the end of the pier. There is something about walking to the end that feels abundant. I can stand there and stare at the sea until it disappears into itself and the sky. If I really think about it, I am staring into infinity.
As I walked along the pier I stared at the ocean on either side of the walkway. I saw the waves crashing. The beautiful blue and green hues of the water. I saw birds in the distance flying and swooping down for their next meal. Yet, I kept walking. Because I knew if I stopped, I’d likely just say “that’s enough now,” and turn around.
This morning I kept focused on the end of the pier. I enjoyed the sights along the way and as I put one foot in front of the other, I enjoyed absorbing this beauty that I too am created from. The end of the pier felt like it was coming quicker and quicker. Just like abundance when you keep your mind focused on the beauty, appreciation and deep, deep gratitude.
Along the way, the birds began swooping and flying over me and people were casting their fishing lines. I was dodging shit and hooks. Literal shit falling from the sky and hooks from people’s lines. The shit and the hooks didn’t go away, but I was able to dance with them. The shit and hooks are representative of our monkey minds.
What shit clouds your mind? Are you being hooked by things?
As I stood at the end of the pier and stared into the sea, I connected with the abundance of life.
I could have stopped halfway telling myself that was good enough, but I kept pushing and putting one foot in front of the other.
Appreciate the beauty and keep moving. And stay in gratitude even when the shit is falling from the sky.
How are you connecting with abundance and gratitude?
When I first started out as a coach and healer I have to admit, my vibe was not as high as it is now. Being an entrepreneur takes a lot of work in many different areas of your life. And it can throw you for a loop when you least expect it.
One of the most important factors of your business is your MINDSET.
Going into this newest venture I felt like my mindset was pretty strong. No actually I thought it was Teflon! I have said it before and I’ll say it again….I can be a little stubborn. Just a little...
In all honesty, I will tell you that the entrepreneurial journey will test you like no other! I thought to myself, I’ve been practicing mindfulness for almost 20 years and have been so active in the self-development world, I’ll be FINE. I had many strategies and they were all tested. Some of them failed.
In the beginning of my business, I had so many triggers.
Social Media was like a freaking mine field of emotions! I became competitive and someone who was frankly NOT ME. It was ugly. I felt it and I couldn’t look away. I started to become bitter. I was often angry.
I used to sink into the thoughts:
“Why weren’t they hiring me?”
“Don’t they know how talented and smart I am?”
“Don’t they know that I am the only Woo in the village!”
I wasn't the person I wanted to be. And there was only one person who can change it.....ME!
Everything was coming from scarcity and not abundance. I couldn’t see that it didn’t matter if my friend was a healer or coach too; there was ENOUGH for all of us. Each one of us have a flavor and style that people gravitate towards. And that’s okay. We attract clients not chase.
The more I asked myself those questions above, why aren’t they this or that, the more I was pushing everyone away from me. My energy was funky and frenetic. And DESPERATE!
I don’t tell you all of this to scare you out of your journey or judge you.
I tell you this so if you can relate, you know you are NOT alone!
That was the hardest thing for me. I didn’t want to admit I was struggling (remember, I am stubborn, just a little) and the more I didn’t want to admit it, the more I struggled. Finally I just said, “Oh fuck this! This is silly. All humans struggle at some point. Ask for help Andrea”
And I dove in rather than avoid the pain. I did some deep inner work. I went to see some healers and NLP practitioners, the exact services I offer. Because sometimes it is just too close to home. My mindset is what got me to that point and I needed someone to reflect back to me the ridiculousness and help me find the way out of it. Ultimately, it was up to me. I had to do the work. I had to show up.
And oh my stars, did the love and support and NON-JUDGMENT feel GOOD!! It was liberating!
I reminded myself of my Gratitude practice and I didn’t let myself slip. Not for one day! I went all in with it.
Gratitude saved my life and business. It saved my marriage. It saved my kids. It saved my wallet. It saved my everything. And I am not talking about blind gratitude. You know, the empty thank yous. I am talking the feel it so hard in your heart you beautiful cry.
There is enough for all of us.
YOU are wealthy.
YOU are abundant.
YOU are magic.
If you are struggling, please don’t suffer in silence.
Reach out to someone who can help you and please check out my services to see if we might even be a match. I’d be happy to help you reach your personal summit from a space of love and non-judgment.
A year ago I dove into my intuitive work and started doing readings for money for the first time ever. I'd been reading intuitively for 20 years, but finally felt the pull to do it as a business.
I am going to talk about why it is important to have people in your life who fan your flames as Will Smith says.
I am also going to share the responsibility YOU and I have in making sure we create that for ourselves.
Flash forward to last summer....I hired a coach....she said, "don't worry about the cards and Woo factor...what is the result your produce?" I understood what she was saying but definitely did not feel like she "got" what I was creating, my vision, and my WHY.
That is 100% fine because I am the creator of my life and dreams. And there is nothing wrong with her perception or opinions or even if she didn't believe in the Woo. It is my job to make sure I am surrounded by those who support me and my mission.
Coaching really is about being a fit and match for both parties.
Through that experience I explored offering coaching a little more. I love coaching and had been doing that for a number of years, but I kept feeling the pull back to the Woo even if I was coaching.
Flash forward a little farther down the line and I worked with another coach who 100%, fully supported me in my Woo efforts...the result, a thriving business. I quadrupled my Page and booked over 200 readings in a little over TWO months!
It is not so much about one coach being right or wrong. Good or bad. Woo or not Woo.
I share those two very different experiences because to show that when we are surrounded by those who fan our flames, we thrive.
My success in one program vs the other was purely due to being with a group of people where my flames were fanned and my vibration high.
And I promise you, when you feel the flames are fanned, your vibration WILL raise.
What I have learned is this:
No one else can save you
No one else can create miracles in your life
No one else has more answers to your life THAN YOU
No one else knows your WHY.
No coach can create a successful business for you because YOU are the Creator! Their systems and you putting the work in are what produce the results.
My suggestions to you:
Find the people who believe in you.
Find people with similar values.
Believe in yourself and TRUST yourself.
Take responsibility for YOU AS CREATOR
Work with a coach who gets your vision.
If you want something, go after it.
If you need help, find someone who can help you.
If you know that something isn't right for you, change it.
You are the only one who has the POWER to make your life what you dream it to be.
Creator of Magic